It is spawned when we dare to see the world through an alternate lens. Embrace the unknown.Ĭonfidence comes from a space of humility. Don’t worry if you’re not confident in what you can do now-be confident in your potential. If you fall short at something, realize you can get closer next time. If someone does better than you, see it as an opportunity to learn from them. If someone criticizes you, take it as an opportunity to improve. Don’t weigh your security against what you know or can do weigh it against your willingness and capacity to learn. Everyone is good at some things and not so good at others. Trust your capabilities.Ĭonfidence comes not from knowing you know everything, but from knowing you can handle what comes up. Pessimism can undermine your performance creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.įind the successes in every day and you’ll notice over time that they increase. But research suggests this isn’t universally true. It might seem strange to say expect success since you can’t predict the future, but don’t we do the alternative all the time? Have you ever gone into a stressful situation assuming the worst-that something would go wrong?Ĭonventional wisdom suggests it’s smart to expect the worst because you won’t be disappointed if you fail and you’ll be pleasantly surprised if you succeed. And this alone, can bring about more success, reinforcing the confidence. It requires a mental attitude shift to an expectation of success. Expect success.Ĭonfidence comes from success…But confidence also combines another quality because you can be successful, yet lack confidence. As you use your strengths and improve where there’s room to grow, you’ll develop both confidence and fulfillment simultaneously. Make an effort to utilize some of the first list and work on some of the second every day. It might help to list five things you do well that you enjoy and five things you’d like to do well. Unless it’s all about ego-but does that really make you happy?) (If you’re great in sales, but you actually can’t stand sales jobs, then it doesn’t really matter if you have confidence there. For one thing, it can be hard to know which parts of you are you, and which parts are who you think you should be.Ī good start is to identify your strengths and weaknesses and then weigh those against what you enjoy. Learning who you are doesn’t happen overnight. Know your strengths and weaknesses.Īs you learn who you are, you gain confidence in your strengths and also learn your weaknesses. ![]() When you start feeling unsure of yourself remember: we were all born with confidence, and we can all get it back if we learn to silence the thoughts that threaten it. You learned to crave praise and avoid criticism, and maybe you started getting down on yourself if you got more of the latter than the former. Once you developed a sense of self-awareness, you started forming doubts and insecurities about how other people saw you. It’s just that it may help to remember confidence was your original nature before time started chiseling away at it. I’m not suggesting that you should be oblivious to other people. You came out blissfully unaware of external judgment, concerned only with your own experience and needs. ![]() You didn’t come out of the womb unsure of your cry or insecure about your large umbilical cord. Sometimes you have to dig deep to find it again. I feel it’s something that is always there, something you’re born with that gets lost along the way, or stolen by others. Tap into the confidence you were born with. Not sure if confidence can be learned? I asked this question on the Tiny Buddha Facebook page to see what readers had to say and then used some of their responses to shape the steps outlined below: 1. One thing that will definitely help is working on your confidence. You may need to challenge limiting beliefs formed years ago, or take yourself out of a situation where other people undermine your abilities. There’s a lot that goes into overcoming those fears. This not only limits your potential in life it also minimizes your ability to make a positive impact on the world around you. Maybe you’ve never been as unsure of yourself as I used to be, but you can likely relate to that feeling of wanting to do something but feeling terrified to start. I wanted to be a writer, but I thought it was far too difficult to get published and therefore didn’t even try until my late twenties. I wanted to perform on Broadway, but even moving to New York City didn’t give me the courage to audition. I knew I wanted to be in a relationship, but I feared that if I got into one I’d do something to mess it up. “With realization of one’s own potential & self confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” ~Dalai Lamaįor the vast majority of my life I didn’t believe I could do most of the things I wanted to do.
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